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Counseling, Therapy & Life Coaching by Dr. Jean Pollack


Signs that You May Need to Set Boundaries with Loved Ones

What does setting boundaries mean and how do you know when it’s time to set them?

Many people have been living with toxic relationships for many years and wonder why they continue to have negative self talk and energy depletion after being in the company of certain people.

For example, recently, when I asked a client to describe her mother she said, “She is very committed to what she wants for others, strong, opinionated and blames others when they fail to take her advice.” She ended with a sigh and explained that she and the other members of her family… Continue reading

What is your communication cycle?

Do you have relationship problems?

Most of the couples that I see want to improve their communication. Many or most have regressed into a pattern of ongoing avoidance and/or resentment that causes them to feel alienated from each other. How does this happen?Avoiding conflict, thinking it will go away doesn’t work. Fear of addressing small conflicts can result in a build up of resentment, blame and unhappiness which grows over time.

Not expressing true feelings to each other creates a sense of distrust and impairs communication.

Not telling your partner how you feel and what you need and instead expecting… Continue reading

Are You Afraid to Cry Because You May Not Stop?

A week ago I heard a client say ‘I don’t want to cry because I may not stop’.  Another said ‘I have to be strong and keep myself going for my children and my family’.

I suggested to her that ‘its alright to cry and release emotions of fear, pain, frustration, hurt ,sadness and anger’. ‘Its healing and tears release toxins from the body’.  I thought to myself later, I haven’t cried in many  months! I focus on the positive and practice meditation and exercise daily and when I miss my children and grandchildren and friends I call or Facetime… Continue reading

Multiple Personalities and EMDR Therapy

Are you interested in multiple personalities, EMDR therapy, and/or a person’s story of overcoming childhood abuse? Although Multiple Personality or Dissociative Identity Disorder as a condition is considered rare, it is also often overlooked or misdiagnosed.

Many children who have been severely abused or neglected have no other recourse then to remove themselves from frightening, destructive situations. If they cannot do so physically, they withdraw into different “places” within the mind.

In my book, Tango from Chaos to Creativity, my patient shares his most devastating childhood memories of abuse in a poetic manner, along with his complex way of… Continue reading

Tips on How to Emotionally Respond to a Narcissist

Many people who have lived with or been in a relationship with a narcissist find themselves emotionally drained and confused. They become confused about how to feel or how to respond to the narcissist’s demands, incongruences, bullying and his/her need for constant attention and approval. The narcissistic person demonstrates a pattern of  ongoing relentless manipulation for the sheer enjoyment of seeing or hearing a reaction. Ignoring them deflates them.

‘The narcissist makes decisions for others to suit his/her own needs. The narcissist may use his or her romantic partner, child, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill… Continue reading