According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the Five Love Languages Series, we all speak with one of five love languages: quality time, physical touch, gift giving, acts of service, and words of affirmation.
For example, your partner may reflect his love through physical touch when you’re craving quality time. Or, you may shower your significant other with gifts while he or she is in need of words of affirmation.
In my practice, I see couples that are struggling in a variety of ways to connect and communicate. This can range from feeling disconnected, not spending enough creative… Continue reading
Many people are experiencing anxiety which can be experienced as restlessness, worry, insomnia and/or somatic symptoms such as heart palpitations, abdominal tightness and headaches. Stress is a word used often by people to describe anxiety.
There are many ways to cope with and reduce symptoms of anxiety with deep breathing and guided meditation ( if you can slow your mind down enough to participate). Massage can also relieve muscle tension that many times accompanies anxiety. Cognitive Restructuring is also an effective method to reduce anxiety. The concept is if you become aware of your negative thought patterns and change them… Continue reading
‘How can you have intimacy without hearts speaking to each other?’ — Rumi
How is it possible to have intimacy with anyone without speaking from your heart? Listen to your heart. Enjoy music that touches your heart. Feel your heart beating and speak from your heart when in conversations with others. You will see quickly whether the other person is present with you. If not, move on to those who can join you in true honest conversation.
Daily situations give rise to human intimacy. For example, when the person at the drive through hands you your coffee,… Continue reading
Many of the people who come to my office have waited too long. The communication and conflicts have continued for many years and they are thinking of leaving their marriage.
Everyone wants the same things; unconditional love, acceptance, and respect. Many of the clients that I see are expressing these needs in dysfunctional ways to each other. When I help each to see that they want the same thing, they start to heal their relationship. The secret is learning to express and hear the other’s needs in a way that you can both understand. I have helped many people with… Continue reading
The holidays are a time of year for celebration, being with family, and enjoying. Yet, they also tend to be a time of stress for many people in terms of preparation, overindulgence, and cost. The following are five ways to manage your stress through this holiday season.
1. Make time for your family but also for yourself.
If you are a parent, the holidays can be extremely stressful as you prepare for your children’s celebration. However, even if you are single the additional stress of attending holiday parties, family gatherings, and gift buying may seem like more to do. This… Continue reading