Many people feel conflict around the topic of overeating. Unless addressed in therapy, and most effectively with EMDR therapy, this conflict can continue to spin and remain unresolved because conflict is a tug of war.
For example, while eating do you ever feel shame or negative about your body image? Many times, people argue within themselves when tempted to eat unhealthy foods in excess with rationalizations such as:
- I deserve to reward myself.
- I had a stressful day.
- It’s genetic.
- What does it matter? I’ll never lose the weight anyway.
At the same time, other parts… Continue reading
Is Our Communication becoming a Collection of Clichés?
Eloquence in language happens in your heart. –Rumi, The Rose
The definition of cliché seems to have lost its meaning. Anton C. Zijderveld, a Dutch sociologist, offers some illuminating insights on clichés and what they can and cannot offer. “A cliché is a traditional form of human expression (in words, thoughts, emotions, gestures, acts) which – due to repetitive use in social life – has lost its original, often ingenious heuristic power. Although it thus fails positively to contribute meaning to social interactions and communication, it does function socially, since it… Continue reading
Want to Reach Your Goals Faster? Try Adopting a “Journey Mindset”
It’s not easy to change the way you look at goal attainment, but moving away from a “destination mindset” can boost your odds of success.
By Rebecca Muller, Assistant Editor at Thrive Global
It’s incredibly gratifying to achieve a goal you’ve set for yourself, but the real challenge often begins after you hit your target, when you have to maintain the practices you have begun in order to see prolonged success. According to a new Stanford study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, individuals are more… Continue reading
WHAT GOES ON IN A THERAPY SESSION?
What can I expect when I go into see a counselor, psychologist for myself or for my partner and I?
I am asked this question by many people who want to schedule a first time counseling appointment.
I tell them that on their first appointment we will be signing some forms and provide a family history. I also assure them that they can assess whether they are comfortable with me. Many people have attending therapy in the past and didnt resonate with their therapist but stayed with them out of ‘duty’. I explain… Continue reading
According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the Five Love Languages Series, we all speak with one of five love languages: quality time, physical touch, gift giving, acts of service, and words of affirmation.
For example, your partner may reflect his love through physical touch when you’re craving quality time. Or, you may shower your significant other with gifts while he or she is in need of words of affirmation.
In my practice, I see couples that are struggling in a variety of ways to connect and communicate. This can range from feeling disconnected, not spending enough creative… Continue reading