Relationships can be tough because we bring our values, beliefs and expectations from our family of origin. Unfortunately (or fortunately) so does your partner. Compromise and communication are the keys to having a conflict free relationship. I invite your comments.
What does the term ADD really mean? ‘ADD is the term commonly used to describe symptoms of inattention, distractibility, and poor working memory’. https://www.additudemag.com/add-adhd-symptoms-difference/
Are you concerned about yourself or a loved one because you completed a checklist and the results show that you have symptoms of ADD?
Well, many children and people will test positive on those questionnaires because life is full of stress, transition and traumas which affect the brain on a short term or long term basis.
How we respond to stressors depends on the longevity of the stressor, type of stressor and our sensitivity to stressors.… Continue reading
Fall in love and improve your health.
In love you are present, in the moment feeling the flow of dopamine, oxytocin, vasopressin and growth hormones….a vacation from stress and fear
When you feel love your wishes and desires are being felt and realized in the moment.
Healing actually occurs when you have thoughts of love and you are filled with ecstasy and purpose. These thoughts change your chemistry and promote healing. This has been studied and verified for many years by Dr. Bruce Lipton (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KQa0IOjEt3k) who promotes the ideas of changing your perceptions which will actually convert your… Continue reading
According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the Five Love Languages Series, we all speak with one of five love languages: quality time, physical touch, gift giving, acts of service, and words of affirmation.
For example, your partner may reflect his love through physical touch when you’re craving quality time. Or, you may shower your significant other with gifts while he or she is in need of words of affirmation.
In my practice, I see couples that are struggling in a variety of ways to connect and communicate. This can range from feeling disconnected, not spending enough creative… Continue reading
Many of the people who come to my office have waited too long. The communication and conflicts have continued for many years and they are thinking of leaving their marriage.
Everyone wants the same things; unconditional love, acceptance, and respect. Many of the clients that I see are expressing these needs in dysfunctional ways to each other. When I help each to see that they want the same thing, they start to heal their relationship. The secret is learning to express and hear the other’s needs in a way that you can both understand. I have helped many people with… Continue reading
Living Apart but Together
Why do couples continue to live together even though they are separated or considering divorce? Some couples find that they want ‘space’ from each other and decide to live together (stay in their current home) while they start marriage counseling or wait for the divorce to go through.
This decision is based on many variables. Sometimes the couple can’t decide who should leave the home or they may want their children to remain in their current school district.
Some couples have a sizeable home with a substantial mortgage payment. They decide to share the home… Continue reading