Many of the people who come to my office have waited too long. The communication and conflicts have continued for many years and they are thinking of leaving their marriage.
Everyone wants the same things; unconditional love, acceptance, and respect. Many of the clients that I see are expressing these needs in dysfunctional ways to each other. When I help each to see that they want the same thing, they start to heal their relationship. The secret is learning to express and hear the other’s needs in a way that you can both understand. I have helped many people with… Continue reading
Sometimes people are afraid to feel suffering, loneliness, or despair and attempt to silence it by consuming. Consuming takes the form of food, video games, shopping, alcohol, pornography, or other negative behaviors that create addictions.People become frustrated with the ongoing cycle of numbing their uncomfortable feelings with food. They wonder why they… Continue reading
In the first few encounters with a potential partner, we tend to assess their assets as well as their baggage. For example how many marriages and divorces has this person had? How many children, stepchildren, or any volatile relationships with exes?
Then, there is the area of addictions such as alcohol, porn, or gambling. These are heavy baggage type people. If there is a history of bankruptcy or a criminal history then this is also major baggage.
A good question to ask yourself is, “Do I want to start a relationship with someone who has major baggage or would… Continue reading