Many of the people who come to my office have waited too long. The communication and conflicts have continued for many years and they are thinking of leaving their marriage.
Everyone wants the same things; unconditional love, acceptance, and respect. Many of the clients that I see are expressing these needs in dysfunctional ways to each other. When I help each to see that they want the same thing, they start to heal their relationship. The secret is learning to express and hear the other’s needs in a way that you can both understand. I have helped many people with… Continue reading
Living Apart but Together
Why do couples continue to live together even though they are separated or considering divorce? Some couples find that they want ‘space’ from each other and decide to live together (stay in their current home) while they start marriage counseling or wait for the divorce to go through.
This decision is based on many variables. Sometimes the couple can’t decide who should leave the home or they may want their children to remain in their current school district.
Some couples have a sizeable home with a substantial mortgage payment. They decide to share the home… Continue reading
Many people who have lived with or been in a relationship with a narcissist find themselves emotionally drained and confused. They become confused about how to feel or how to respond to the narcissist’s demands, incongruences, bullying and his/her need for constant attention and approval. The narcissistic person demonstrates a pattern of ongoing relentless manipulation for the sheer enjoyment of seeing or hearing a reaction.
‘The narcissist makes decisions for others to suit his/her own needs. The narcissist may use his or her romantic partner, child, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized dreams, or… Continue reading
EDITOR’S NOTE: In our ongoing series showcasing professional life coaches, this week’s feature is from Karen Jones, an ICS Counselor. She reflects on her recent learnings on mindfulness and how to practice it as a way of being.
Upon returning from my latest mindfulness retreat, I find myself continuing to contemplate some of the discussions that included the term, habit energies. As I understand it, habit energies are those patterns, responses, and ways of being that we develop after observing, learning, and practicing them. We then begin to use them in our lives without much conscious intention; perhaps… Continue reading
Dr. Helen Fisher studies ways to make love easier. Using Clinical research and MRI’s, her love quiz on chemistry.com helps you determine your type if you are seeking love. She also offers practical advice to keep love alive, depending on yours and your partner’s type.
In her recent article on Oprah.com, she challenges the idea of love at first sight.
“Psychologists say that the more you interact with a person you like (even slightly), the more you come to regard him as goodlooking, smart, and similar to you—unless you discover something that breaks the spell. So it’s wise to… Continue reading